Do you ever feel like you are just a manager of "stuff"?
I do. Our house is so full of good ol’ c-r-a-p that I feel like I am spending a lot of time just trying to take care of it all. When people ask me what I do for a living (not that they do) I should say that I am in management. "Oh?" they will ask. "What do you manage?" Oh, you know I run a household of junk and small people. "Really?" they will say as they roll their eyes at me. Yes. It takes a lot to manage more possessions than one can handle. Quite frankly, I don’t have time to have this conversation with you, for as we speak, the stuff is getting out of control.
Seriously.
So I have made a decision to downsize. My sanity demands it.
And as painful as it was I started with my own belongings. Particularly my own personal stuffed animals. One such friend who will be departing our family is a very loved and special one. A sweet and fluffy little elephan that I longed to have and when I finally recieved her I affectionately named her Elly. (Yeah, not the most creative of names, but hey, I was 10.)
And as I was putting Elly and a few other toys into a big plastic sack, Sugar had a complete come-apart.
"Don’t put those in the GARBAGE!!!!"
It was just too much for her little 2-year old mind to take. She was screaming and tossing everything out of the bag. She was a little ball of fury and tears and I wasn’t much better off! I am trying to make my life easier here! I realized my idea to do this while children were present, was a very bad choice indeed. One very long tantrum and a timeout later Sugar and I sat at the computer while I googled images of Poor African Children.
Me: See those kids?
Sugar: uh-huh
Me: Do they look sad?
Sugar: (Sniffling) uh-huh.
Me: Do you think they have any toys?
Sugar: (nodding and smiling) Uh-huh.
Me: Um, no. NO they don’t have any toys. Isn’t that sad?
Sugar: (frowning) Yeah.
Me: So should we give them some of our toys?
Sugar: Yeah.
So that was that. I don’t know if that was a good parenting moment or just an act of desperation. I sure do hope that when I take Elly to the DI that she gets sent to a poor child with no toys instead of sitting on the shelf of the thrift store. I’m still a little broken up about giving my friend away. Writing this post has made me begun to queston my decision. Since I haven’t taken the stuff yet, maybe it’s not too late…



Oh you go girl! I think she may even remember that one when she grows up! Thanks for the inspiration to downsize my “stuff”
Comment by Jd — May 12, 2007 @ 7:33 pm
Act of desperation or not that was a GREAT parenting moment. It is amazing how much a 2 year old can sympathize with others. Teaching her that other children are not as fortunate and sharing her old toys with them is a great life lesson!
Comment by T with Honey — May 12, 2007 @ 8:50 pm
When I have dejunked the toy box, I have had my little boy help. I’ve thought about doing it without him, but what do I say when he asks where a toy is and I say I gave it away? And what do I do when he throws a fit and it’s my fault because I didn’t ask? So I involve him and ask him what toys he can give to kids who needs toys and he does better than I thought he would. It wasn’t as hard as I expected. And I’ve learned if you are going to “down size”, do it and don’t think twice about it, if I think too long about it I keep stuff I probably shouldn’t.
Comment by Erin — May 15, 2007 @ 3:09 pm
Oh, goodbye Elly! I hope they find a wonderful home for you!
I’m sure your daughter learned something really important! Well done! And now I think I’ll go attack my own clutter…
Comment by Brillig — May 15, 2007 @ 8:19 pm