So maybe it’s because we were snowed in for so long, and now we’ve been on perpetual vacation time, but I haven’t been real thrilled with my stay at home mom status lately.  And yes I am using the term "stay at home" because that’s what we’ve been doing.

Bleh.

So I did a search last night to find solutions and I came across this:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070615053228AAx6kb6 

Basically a woman was asking for answers– she was unhappy as a stay at home mom, money was tight and she wanted her own identity.  She posted on yahoo answers– not the most useful, but clearly she had no regular support system.  I was shocked at what people were saying to her.  They were basically telling her to buck up and deal with it, that it wasn’t a dilemma and that her identity was her mothering.  One woman even told her to "Grow up" and that she felt entitled to say that because she too was a stay at home mom.

To which I reply, clearly the woman telling her to grow up is also unhappy as a stay at home mom.

Because a happy, healthy stay at home mom would show sympathy.  She would be kind and offer useful suggestions. I don’t believe that that women never had the same feelings.  Clearly she did and someone else gave her that lovely advice.

It’s not an easy terrain to navigate through, this mothering business.  Whether you stay home or not, there will always be opinions and feelings pulling you in all directions.  We need to support each other and not be critical and snooty.

Pfft.

Well, I guess it’s time for me to grow up and deal with my reality. 

(Seriously, how does that fix anything?)