Would you let YOUR 13 year old sail the wordl ALONE?
Heck no. Duh. But apparently this little Dutch girl has plans for it and her father is not opposed. Thankfully the court has taken her into custody for two months to evaluate her psychologically. In my opinion, even if Laura Dekker is the world’s most mature 13 year old, there is no way in Hades she should be allowed to sail alone– for TWO years.
The article compared her to another young sailor, a 17 year old BOY who sailed around the world in just 9 months. Now this lad was also a minor, but there is a HUGE difference between 13 and 17 (about 4 years actually). And not to be sexist, because I think girls mature faster, but boys have different "safety" issues than girls, if you know what I mean.
So anyhow, the court is going to evaluate her to see if she should be allowed to go. I love this line from the article about the ruling: "(It supports the idea that) you are not a bad parent if you try to help your child fulfill her dream," the family lawyer noted. To which I say, I think it’s great to support your kids in their dreams. If I had a 13 year old daughter who was an excellent sailor who wanted to sail the world solo, I would say, "Honey that’s awesome, and I know you can do it. Let’s make all the preparations now, so that when you are AT LEAST 18, you can fulfill that dream!"
What do you think? I think it’s ludicrous to even consider letting her do it. Do you think she would be happy if her dad went with her? Should she just wait until she’s 17 or 18?
Also, here’s a good one I head yesterday… A mom was talking about her ooh, maybe 8 year old boy (who was taking private dance lessons at the time) and she says to another mom, "I am trying to convince him not to take so many classes…" What the heck? Convince him? Since when did you stop being the adult? Does he have his own bank account? If you don’t want him to take so many classes, then you don’t LET him take so many classes. Sheesh.



How about a father/daughter sailing trip? Kids are so eager to grow up way to fast. I feel like my biggest job as a parent is to pull back on the reigns. If I let my daughter do everything she wants to do (i.e. watch rated R movies, wear make-up, get her ears pierced) then there won’t be anything for her to do when she is age appropriate for those things. So at 13 she’ll want to do the things that 18 year olds are doing and when she is 18….I don’t even want to think about that. My point is, sometimes in our current culture, we have to force children to be children because they want to be short adults. Heck no I wouldn’t let my daughter sail a boat alone at 13. It is just not age appropriate, no matter what her skills are.
Comment by Laundry & Children — August 31, 2009 @ 7:01 pm
Kinda reminds me of the time my hairdresser warned a little girl not to touch a hot curling iron. The little girl promptly threw a tantrum and the mother got bit pissy and told my hairdresser, “She doesn’t like it when you tell her no.”
Comment by laura — September 8, 2009 @ 7:07 pm