Don’t get me wrong, I’m all about forgiveness.  But what is up with these celebrities and their bad behavior?  First Serena, and then Kanye.  (Beyonce, however, is a classy lady I must say).

What gets me, is that they do these reckless nasty things and then they issue these elaborate apologies to the public.  To me they always seem sort of "not sorry" like their mom is making them apologize to the neighbor kid.  It drives me nuts, because while I think apologizing is important, these public appearances seem insincere and pointless.  And when it comes down to it, they still did a really jerky thing that people are not going to be quick to forget.  If you are constantly doing mean things and then saying sorry, and then doing mean things– you’re still mean.

Real life is kind of like that too.

You can always apologize for what you’ve done.  You can do something horrid and say you are sorry and then be forgiven.  But if that’s your life plan– do first, apologize later– you are going to lose a LOT of friends.  It is so much easier if you take the ten extra seconds to THINK about the action you are about to engage in, and consider not how it will make you look, but how it will affect the people around you.  Because while you can always say you are sorry, you can never change the thing you did. 

You can say you were an idiot, Kanye, and you can say you’re sorry.  But you can’t take back the hurt and shock and embarassment you caused Taylor Swift.  You stole her moment, and even though Beyonce tried to make up for it, you can never give it back to her.